SHOULD YOU STAY IN A DEAD-END RELATIONSHIP UNTIL THE
HOLIDAYS ARE OVER?

by Renee Piane

Now that the holidays are approaching there are many people who are looking for someone to hang out with during these festive times.

Some people may be just casually dating and then the holidays approach and they feel some sort of obligation to stick it out due to the holiday blues.

Some people will know they are leading a person on and because they don't want to lose out on the sex, they may pretend the relationship is happening. This situation happens often and many people feel led on or betrayed. Be fair and don't lie just to have sex.

A very attractive man I met recently is dating a single mother with a 4 year old child and knew he never intended to marry her and yet he kept the relationship going because he didn't feel like "hurting" her before the holidays and he didn't want to give up the sex.

He said he wanted to wait until after the holidays to break the news to her. I was upset to hear his plan and gave him a piece of my mind.

Believe me telling a woman (or a man) in the early phases is better than dragging her or him into a supposed "relationship" and having them feel hurt later on.

Especially since the holidays is a sentimental time for people and especially kids. What a selfish man to keep his options open and yet make her believe she is "the one."

If you are having casual sex and know for sure your partner wants more you must be clear in your communication. If this is you, be honest with the person you are dating.

You can save your partners a lot of heartache and you will also not have the guilt many people carry around knowing that they won't go for the "long haul " with this person.

Many singles tell me that the evasiveness is what drives them crazy. We want honesty so we know our options.

Don't play with other peoples hearts and souls! Especially during the holidays!

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