NO HEAT!

by Renee Piane

When there is no heat … Can you make it happen? How is it that, you can meet someone and have all the connections but not the physical/sexual connection? I have had many a client ask me about meeting a new person and having an incredible connection and then not having the chemistry to back up the emotions they were feeling. To be honest with you, this situation has happened in my own experience with an incredible person who I dated for some time. We both felt a connection of closeness and love except we didn’t feel the hot passion we had both felt in some of our past relationships. We wanted to be more intimate but there is something missing in the chemistry. Can this chemistry build in time? Can it be ignited even if the stirrings are not happening under the sheets?

I have known many a couple who dated someone that they had this lack of interest in and something just switched on them. What might that be?  Try another person coming into their lives and taking up there time suddenly. Nothing like a stirring of jealousy to ignite  the flames of passion with a so called “friend.” Yes it can be changed if you are open and can see beyond the chemistry. My girlfriend married a man who she swore wasn’t her type. After seeing him in a few situations that made her have a change of heart and she can’t imagine being with anyone else. She also reports that the sex is hotter than ever…It can happen! Wondering what happened to my “friend” I suppose? Well we still are exploring the romance and keeping the possibility for love open….Time to go take a jacuzzi … 

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